PinnedThe Central ProblemPeople who make dating apps usually share the same vision: An egalitarian community, where everyone is friendly, communicates…Jul 29, 2018Jul 29, 2018
Clarity can be a bad thingWhen people are younger they don’t know what they want in a relationship. Their own careers are uncertain. They have limited experience in…Sep 21, 2024Sep 21, 2024
It shouldn’t be considered okay to be mean to menCancel culture seems to have run its course so this may be a bit late to the party but is worth reiterating. There are several things these…Sep 2, 2024Sep 2, 2024
Dating Fat PeopleYou might have noticed that Americans are fat. Not just a little fat, but in the midst of a full-blown obesity epidemic. It’s even worse in…Jul 21, 202461Jul 21, 202461
The Sluttiness ConstantReligiously celibate people are often worried about what would happen if they started having sex. They imagine that their life would turn…Jun 24, 2024Jun 24, 2024
Does early sex kill relationships?One of the most important questions about dating is one which it seems noone dares discuss seriously. If you’re dating someone and they’re…Apr 24, 20241Apr 24, 20241
How to be Good at SexSome people, legend has it, are good at sex. Many more aspire to be good at it. This is notoriously difficult to do. It doesn’t help that…Mar 22, 2024Mar 22, 2024
Picking out a good partnerWhen looking for a serious partner you have to make a guess as to who it might work out with. Relationships in general have a high failure…Mar 16, 2024Mar 16, 2024
How To Fall In LoveMost of the advice about dating is about how to find a partner, only tertiarily how to get them to fall in love with you, and barely…Feb 3, 2024Feb 3, 2024
How to use Dating Apps as a WomanThere’s much more actionable advice for women to follow about how to use dating apps than for men. This is because most men already know…Nov 16, 2023Nov 16, 2023
Old ConnectionsDating app profiles tend to collect old dead connections over time. Maybe they’re from people who stopped using the app. Maybe they’re…Sep 27, 2023Sep 27, 2023
Apps which can be writtenI’d like to draw your attention to AreWeDatingTheSameGuy, which is in its current incarnation a web site and Facebook group devoted to…Jun 18, 2023Jun 18, 2023
JubileeThe pandemic, obviously, was not good for dating. Most people were confined to only seeing a few other people, which meant that either they…May 18, 2023May 18, 2023
You don’t need your top choiceThinking more about approaching dating algorithmically and how attached it is to mantaining some possibility that the person who you…Feb 16, 2023Feb 16, 2023
Love LanguagesThe term ‘Love Languages’ is probably dubious for you to use for both trademark and copyright reasons. But the concepts are good ones, so…Nov 7, 2022Nov 7, 2022
Revisiting the secretary problemThe book ‘Algorithms to Live By’ has a whole section on variants of the secretary problem. One striking thing about it is that it never…Nov 7, 2022Nov 7, 2022
Contact Info in Dating ProfilesThere are directly conflicting goals with what you want to happen with dating profiles. On the one hand, you want profiles to be as…Oct 10, 2022Oct 10, 2022
How dating apps can stop suckingOn this blog I talk a lot about how one could make a better dating app, but in practice I’d much rather you fix your app than I make a…Aug 15, 2022Aug 15, 2022
When men see womenIn my previous post about time intervals I skipped over one important thing: How should men be shown women who have said yes to them? When…Aug 14, 2022Aug 14, 2022
Bitter Young MenThere’s a whole industry of giving dating advice to bitter young men. Within this industry there are multiple schools all of which hate…May 11, 2022May 11, 2022